I've been thinking about writing this post for months, and now that I'm only three weeks away from my due date, it's time to hit publish. I have been blogging for over four years and I've loved sharing important milestones in my life -- our engagement, marriage, move across the country, and most recently my pregnancy. I was thrilled to find out I was pregnant and I wanted to share my journey through bumpdate posts and #babycornflake pics on Instagram.
However, I think it's important to stop and think about babies, blogging, and privacy. I grew up with a computer in our home but Facebook and Twitter didn't come around until I was in college. The world has changed a lot since I was little and now many parents share photos and videos of their kids on social media. Others go a step further and chronicle their kids lives through blogging as a way to connect with their family. I totally respect that and I LOVE to read "mommy" blogs and see photos of cute babies. In the end it's up to the parents and it's a very personal choice as to what they share. As a blogger I often put pressure on myself to share everything, but that doesn't mean I should have to.
After a long discussion with H we have decided that we'd like to keep most of Violet's life private. That means I won't be posting photos of her on my blog or public social media accounts. It wasn't an easy decision, but given H's career -- he is a psychiatrist and he often evaluates mentally unstable patients who are being held in jail or in prison-- it only makes sense for our family to make her privacy a priority. We'd also like to give her a childhood similar to our own -- where her photos are kept in albums at home and not made available to everyone on the internet.
I have no doubt that I'll still talk about Violet in blog posts -- she'll be a huge part of my life, so how couldn't I?! I also plan on sharing her favorite toys and clothes, her nursery (whenever it's completed), and my favorite maternity and postpartum items since I've found similar blog posts helpful as a first-time mom. But I am not going to post a birth story or monthly developmental updates. I hope you understand and respect my decision. If you have any questions please don't hesitate to leave a comment below or email me!
What do you think mamas? When it comes to your kids -- how do you decide what to share?