9.14.2011

wedding wednesday-name change.

last week at dinner with friends we started talking about weddings (one of the other girls is engaged too) she asked me if i was going to change my name. i immediately said yes, and no i wasn't going to hyphenate my maiden name or use it as my middle name (i like my middle name!) she was going to do the same. the conversation got me thinking about the whole name change game... i think there are perfectly good reasons for keeping your last name. elizabeth taylor was married eight times (that would be a LOT of new last names to keep up with!) also i have heard the paperwork is a bit tedious but i find something romantic about becoming mrs. m :)
hanger, glasses, e-card



what do you think? did you change your take your fiance's name when you got married? single ladies: do you want to keep your maiden name in the future? 
xo, 
jillian

61 comments:

  1. I'm changing my name, but making my last name my middle name. I feel a little attachment to it, but I think thats because my fiance's name is so much harder to spell!

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  2. I adore those glasses..They are really sweet. I didn't chance my name after Balazs and I got married only because I wanted to keep my Polish roots alive from my dad's side of family. We are such a culturally mixed bunch, so it's nice for us to keep those little things around. Have a great day, sunshine

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  3. I went the traditional route and changed my last name to my husband's. My middle name stayed the same. I was actually surprised how un-complicated it was to change my last name (atleast in Delaware, where we were at the time!) I've heard a lot of instances were the girl's maiden name is taken as her middle name and the middle name is dropped.

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  4. I've been thinking that my boyfriend should take my last name, should we ever get married. All kidding aside, I think I might be a hyphenater since I'm known by my last name.

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  5. It's such an interesting point - I want to keep my last name, because my parents have only daughters and I don't want our family name to disappear because it means the world to me! But there is something so sweet and romantic about being a Mrs...I'm not engaged, but I wonder about this all the time!

    -Marie
    So What If I Like Pretty Things

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  6. I changed my name too! Yes the paperwork was a hassle for a while but it was worth it! I did keep my maiden name and switched it to my new current middle name. I like having that part of me still and love using it now as an initial (something I never did before!). Best of luck!

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  7. I did not take my husbands name. I was 30 when getting married and had my own business - a lot of paperwork I didn't want to go thru. Plus, I am the last girl in my family (no boys) and while my father is alive, I want to represent his name. My husband was very understanding. In public we just introduce me as Mr & Mrs...

    xoxo from Trinidad

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  8. I'm totally old school and traditional so I definitely changed my name, but it was sad giving up my maiden name.

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  9. I love the idea of changing your last name! Totally romantic and solidifies that you're in it for the long haul. xo

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  10. yup, i took my husband's name~~ and didn't move my last name to my middle name b/c it sounded weird with his last name cuz it was actually pretty similar!!!

    the only big pain about name change it all the places u have to change it! SS, drivers license, airlines, hotels, everything!!!

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  11. This conversation sounds oddly familiar :) Love this wedding Wednesday post. I'm going to check back later in the day and read everyone's answers!

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  12. I changed my name completely but just had a friend who hyphenated hers! :)

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  13. I plan on taking my husbands last name...and dropping mine. I am hoping that whoever I marry will have an easier last name to pronounce :-)

    My cousins who got married a couple years ago took each other's last names. They dont hyphenate it but they both changed their last name to Snow Trenkle. Kinda different. They are a really non-traditional couple.

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  14. I love the idea of taking your husband's last name. I am very old-fashioned when it comes to that sort of thing. I probably wouldn't drop my middle name either. I wouldn't be crazy about having my maiden name as my middle name and I love how my monogram (when done in the right font) is mirrored. It's the little things in life :)

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  15. I agree, there's something romantic about taking your husband's name. I did it and the paperwork WAS a pain but it was worth it. I feel closer to him now :)

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  16. I changed my name, but I do miss my maiden name! Evans isn't too bad though! ;)

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  17. With a maiden name like "swilley" I could not WAIT to change mine!!

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  18. I took my husband's name! I couldn't imagine not changing my last night - it's the last step to the whole getting married process! It was a little bit of a pain doing all of the paperwork and changing every single piece of information about you, but definitely worth it :)

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  19. ow!! loved the glasses :)
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  20. You and this post read my mind! My fiance and I are 30-something days away from our wedding, and I have been thinking about changing my name for months now. It's very traditional, but in all honesty, I'm so excited to change my name! I love my fella's last name, and I feel that changing my name to his is so unifying. I've heard the process can be a little complicated, but it's going to be so exciting to become a "Mrs" that it will be worth the effort!

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  21. I will change my name should The Boyfriend and I ever get married. I always thought it would depend on what the guy's name was and his is a lovely, easy to say/spell Italian name. I also have personal reasons for not wanting to keep my own name. I much prefer my middle name as is and I don't have much attachment to my last name so I don't mind losing it. No matter what, though, I would want us to have the same last names (either we both hyphenate or one of us takes the other's, etc.). If we're establishing our life together and starting our own family, I think it's important to have the unity that comes with sharing a last name.

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  22. I love that quote. Stole my heart, so I stole his last name. Too cute. You know where I stand! :)

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  23. If I was famous I'd change my name but alas I'm not. So once it comes time I'll change it :)

    Becca
    http://blondeslogic.blogspot.com

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  24. I took his! Never thought I would but I love sharing our names and being one family. It's really special. :)

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  25. I love those hangers! I want one :)

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  26. for such a masculine-dominant society, in italy women don't change their name! ever! which i love, because i will never change mine. i feel like it's so me, you know? it would be like changing my first name!
    but i totally feel you on the romance of it, it's like you become one person! :)

    marissa @ the boot

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  27. I'm definitely going to take my future hubby's last name and will probably use my maiden name initial when signing my signature. I can't imagine going without my middle name bc it's what I go by..haha.. and I can't imagine getting rid of my first name...so it will probably be Paula Drew H. _____
    Too much? ;)

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  28. I'm definitely going to take Luke's last name, no question about it. While I really love my last name, I could save it for the future children (if we have them...) & reserve it for a middle name, or possibly first name.

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  29. I totally changed my name- for the federal government. But for the state it's still my maiden name because those forms are trickier. And then on Facebook it's my maiden name so my students can't find me.

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  30. I'm totally going to use my last name as my middle name. I love my middle name, but i like my last name more! - Alyssa

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  31. I have always disliked my last name, so I can't wait to get married so I can change it!

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  32. I absolutely positively will change my last name!!! I love the tradition of it, and the ability to show your husband that you are completely devoted to him...no hesitation there! :)

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  33. I go back and forth on this...on one hand I would change and keep my middle name. On the other hand, I want to honor the accomplishments in my life, like Elle Sees put herself through college to get 4 degrees, not Elle X. But who knows?

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  34. I have friends that have hyphenated their name, but I changed my name to my husband's last name. For me, it felt right and I love our last name! great post! I am your newest follower! :)

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  35. Honestly, I was not excited to deal with this. I knew that if I didn't take my fiance's last name that he would be really hurt, but I was not excited to change my last name. I'm weird I guess. But ultimately I did change my last name, and I'm glad I did.... I also added my maiden name to part of my middle name.

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  36. I'm a bit conflicted on this. I think it would matter who the man was. On one hand, I hate my last name. On the other hand, my dad only had daughters so we're the end of the line for his name if we don't keep it. Hmm.

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  37. John and I have agreed that I'll be Mrs Britton to our children's friends and their teachers, but my drivers license and my professional identity will always be mine. Lena B just doesn't have the same ring...

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  38. i just added my husband's name to the end of mine. no hyphen, and no giving up my middle name. i just felt i'd had my name for 30 years, so why should i have to change it? and i thought the name change paperwork was pretty easy. our kids will only have his name though.

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  39. I really struggle with this because of the fact that most men (yes, even the nice ones) would never even consider changing their last name to their wives- so why should we?

    Family unity is really important to me and because of this I definitely want my husband and I to have the same name (we are both going hypenated). However my feminist brain really struggles with the fact that I would even consider leaving my last name behind completely to give us a sense of unity as a couple and yet he would not.

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  40. Definitely changing my name! My first and last name are so common, I'm kind of glad to be a little more unique. I may make it my middle name though, haven't decided.

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  41. I've thought about this some (although I don't really have good reason to), and I'm divided on the issue. I've had my last name a long time, and I like it. I might want to hyphenate. What if my first name sounds horrible with his last name? I guess we'll see how I feel when/if the situation comes up.

    One thing I DO know is that I never want to be addressed as Mrs. (his first name) (his last name). I am not giving up my first name, no matter what.

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  42. Without a doubt, I am absolutely changing my last name! {it could have something to do with the fact that my current last name is Looney...no joke!} My fiance and I have been together forever {really!} and I used to joke with him that I would take his last name even if we did not get married! xoxoxo brynn

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  43. i took bennett's last name and moved my maiden name to my middle name. i never really liked my middle name before, so now i have 3 names i love :)

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  44. i'm not sure if i know what's sweet and romantic about taking someone elses last name. i didn't take my husbands last name and i'm glad for it. i'm not doing it out of principle just more so that the social custom is one to be questioned, and for me, not one to give into.

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  45. Taking my future husband's last name is something I have always looked forward to... I find it so romantic. However, I'm with the guy I want to marry one day and of course find his last name...obnoxious. It's Nantz and Nantz just doesn't ring with Jessica like my last name Wray does. But if I marry him I'll still take it because I've looked forward to it my whole life. Jessica Nantz... :/ maybe I learn to love it.

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  46. Wow! SO much to say on this topic!
    1. I am Mrs. M too! Woo-woo!
    2. I really wanted to make my maiden name my middle name, but it was near impossible--long story.
    3. My husband's cousin took his wives last name. He didn't really know his dad, so his last name didn't have as much meaning to him.
    4. I didn't like my new last name that much at first, but it has definitely grown on me. :) :) :)
    Great topic!
    Love, Leigh

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  47. I took his name because a) it's BADGER and that rules and b) I've always wanted to do that since I was wee. I agree, it's very romantic and very personal. We're a family now and I like having a family name that we all have. I do however like the idea of having my maiden name be my middle name. I don't care for mine much but it's too late, haha! I think we'll probably name a boy Pierce should we have one :)

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  48. I would love to take his name but...if I do marry my boyfriend someday...his last name sounds AWFUL with my first name :( It's a shame, too, because his last name is so cool...

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  49. Definitely changing my last name just because I'm traditional like that, but I do love my current last name!

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  50. Oooh golly, I am definitely changing my name to my future hubby's! I feel giddy and romantic just thinking about the day I will be Mrs. Chattel Chattelerson!

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  51. I want to hyphenate it..but the Mr. doesn't like the idea....especially because I have a loooong first name and last name already...

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  52. It took a while but I eventually. Good luck :)

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  53. I guess for me, I was excited to take my husbands last name. It meant forever. I felt so honored to be his wife, and I wanted the world to know it. I miss my maiden name, but so proud to be his Mrs. :)

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  54. I took his last name and love it! Though my maiden name is now my middle name. Also, I don't have to worry about being Mrs. D and my mother-in-law being Mrs. D because she kept her name.

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  55. I took my hubby's name when we were married in July. I never thought I'd be someone who kept their surname and I was kinda unsure about the hyphen thing so I just went with it. it really connects us and lets my husband know i'm proud of his last name

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  56. haha!! that picture is so funny because my last name is hyphenated :)

    http://xoxo-carolinalove.blogspot.com

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  57. I did change my name & never even thought about any other possiblity. At the time, hubby & I didn't have any children. A friend of mine recently divorced & remarried though and she never had her maiden name restored on account that she didn't want a different last name as her kids. I'd never thought about that before but I understood. I guess it's just a personal decision! I agree with you, I think there is something romantic about taking your hubby's last name.

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  58. I think it's romantic to change your last name as well. Definitely going to change mine after the wedding. :)

    But I will use my maiden name as my middle name since I don't have an actual middle name.

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  59. that's a very interesting question. my initials are s.a.d. so, you'd think, i'd immediately say, "yes, i'm changing my last name!" but i think it'll depend. i'm into aesthetics of just about everything, including words, so whatever it looks like, sounds like and as long as it feels right then i'd change it.
    <3 theseunitedstatesofamericans

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  60. my old boss was a hyphen, so even though i changed my name... she always introduced me with both names, and it stuck. it was bit forced on me- but i've ended up loving it. i don't care if people drop it, but even my husband agrees it sounds cooler... plus, i like that it tells all of who i was and who i am. whatever you like. who cares! :)

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  61. I took his last name. And he would've been terribly insulted if I didn't. At work I've automatically been given a hyphenated last name.

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