8.24.2011

wedding wednesday- say yes.

after being engaged for five months i am finally going dress shopping this weekend!! to be prepared i sought out some dress shopping tips from authority of wedding dresses- tlc's say yes to the dress. i have been watching the show for a couple of years now and it really makes dress shopping seem quite the event. i am happy to say that i'll be shopping with my mom, grandmother, maid and matron of honor. i have done my homework and i am going to try my best to follow the other "rules"::


Research- Start looking for gowns in magazines and websites, and bring the photos to your appointment. It will give your bridal consultant a general idea of the kind of dress you like: traditional, straight, empire, princess ball gown, etc.

Plan- Make sure you have enough time...it can take six to 12 months to order a designer bridal gown. “It’ll take anywhere from nine months to 12 months to order your dress,” says Urshel. “Sometimes six months is OK, but in that case you will be limiting some of the dresses that can be available to you.”

Budget- Know your budget. A lot of people forget that they have to pay for alterations, a headpiece, a veil and undergarments. There are a lot of extras, and sometimes those extras can add up to more than the grown.

Keep Your Party Small- Do not bring an army of friends and relatives to your bridal gown appointment. Have one or two trusted partners -- your mom, a close friend, etc. -- accompany you for a second opinion. Bring people you can trust, and select a dress that works for you -- not for them.

Keep an Open MindListen to the consultant, and try on gowns she suggests. Gowns don’t always look as good on the hanger as they do on the body. Try on as many style as you can. “Do it; try everything. This is your chance to try on all the dresses in the world, and any salon should take the time to work with you to make sure you are happy.”

Wear Appropriate Undergarments- You will be undressing in front of a sales consultant you have never met before. You may also want to wear a strapless bra, or the salon may have samples for you to use.

Trust Your Instincts- You’ll know if the gown is “the one.” If you have to be reassured that a gown looks great on you, it’s probably not the right choice. Is this how you pictured yourself looking as a bride? Does the gown suit your personality? Are you comfortable enough in it to enjoy your wedding day?


whew! i think i can handle it! so excited!!! any other tips?!
how many dresses did you have to try on until you found 'the one'?
xo, 
jillian

52 comments:

  1. very good tips! I found that I never got that big "the one" feeling like on tv but its okay to use your head to make decisions too. I loved some gowns almost enough to say yes but remembered I'd be getting married outdoors in 90 degree weather in a garden so a huge ballgown or something super heavy wouldn't fit. I chose a jcrew cotton gown that was perfect for my wedding and I loved it!

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  2. I can't wait until this is me! Haha. This process seems so surreal, and these are great tips for saying yes to the dress!

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  3. Great tips! I went dress shopping with my mom, matron of honor, and maid of honor. It was nice to have a small party. I found my dress relatively fast. It actually ended up being a sample dress and it was last season's dress so I got a great discount on it. Not sure where you are planning to shop, but I found mine in the Northshore at Doris Bridal: http://www.dorisbridal.com/index.html

    Enjoy and make sure to take lots of pictures so you can review when you get home!

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  4. Those are great tips! I think it's important to look everywhere, too...not just the typical bridal shops. I think it took me a few months before I found my dress.

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  5. I think you're ready to find your perfect dress! Can't wait!! :)

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  6. You're going to have so much fun! And since all the dresses you try are on around a size 14 they have to clamp it to make it tighter, so you'll feel so skinny!

    I agree with not bringing an army of friends. I got pretty overwhelmed the first time I tried on dresses. My advice would be that you shouldn't be afraid to stand up to your salesperson. I had a few who were trying to push dresses on me that I didn't like because THEY thought it would look good, and it took me a few times to be more firm and say no. Good luck!!!!

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  7. I tired on over 80 dresses. I really liked one of the first ones I tried on but thought I needed to try on more. I should have just gone with my gut!

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  8. good luck my dear! get whatever makes you feel the most like you! :)
    can't wait to see it!

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  9. How exciting! I can't wait to hear all about it.

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  10. These are great tips! I only shopped with my mom and it was perfect for me because I get overwhelmed by too many opinions. I also ended up getting the very first dress I ever tried on, even though I tried maybe 20 more after that one, I kept going back to it!

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  11. Yes, love this list! I learned "wear appropriate undergarments" the hard way. My future mother in law has now seen more of body than I would have ever wanted !! :)

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  12. and another good rule - don't get frustrated if you don't find something your first go around. Its a process.

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  13. Take a digital camera with you - have friends take pictures so you can see how the dress looks. REALLY can help you make a decision... xoxo from Trinidad

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  14. These are good tips! Definitely just have an open mind. The wedding consultant brought back a dress that I didn't want to try on, but I did anyway and as soon as I was zipped up I knew it was the one! Dresses definitely don't always look good on hangers! Another tip would be to make sure your dress goes with the overall theme you want for your wedding. I've seen some weddings where the dress is over-the-top froofy and huge, but the rest of the wedding is pretty simple. That doesn't add up in my head!

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  15. The last one is the most important...I didn't trust mine at first and kept looking and looking AND looking...just to make sure I wasn't missing anything. Trust me...I always thought back to the dress I first loved and eventually bought it! If you think you've found 'the one'...you probably just did! :) Have SOO much fun this weekend...so so fun!

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  16. I think you covered it! My only advice is to make sure your party consists of opinions you trust - seems like you've got that covered :) AND, trust the people at the boutique - they do this every day so if they bring out a dress that doesn't look like "you", don't just shrug it off. Because my dress was that dress and didn't look good on the hanger. Then I tried it on and was like, WHOA, this is IT! And nothing compared to it after that!

    Good luck - it's so much fun!

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  17. Good luck! I can't wait to see what you find! :)

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  18. awesome tips!! i think allowing yourself lots of time is key. when you're rushed, you may question your decision. oh, and an unlimited budget would always help :)

    Sam @ fitness food & faith

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  19. Great tips! I love watching say yes to the dress! And good luck! Can't wait to hear about it!

    Becca
    http://blondeslogic.blogspot.com

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  20. Sounds like you've got the plan down! Don't forget to have fun! While I don't always feel like this is always the case, I tried on many very pretty dresses that I loved but I knew I found mine when I felt like Ginger Rogers and never wanted to take it off. Good luck lady. You'll be gorgeous in whatever!

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  21. my favorite show ever! let us know what you find!

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  22. wear appropriate undergarments, SOOOO Important. I totally forgot this and was wearing a thong in front of my MIL. Joy

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  23. oh goodness me i cannot WAIT to see what you picked!

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  24. I am so excited for you!!!! Wow, what a wonderful day for you. I tried on about twenty dresses but ended up buying the first one I tried.

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  25. These are all excellent tips! I used to work a wedding dress shop and let me tell you...the worst was the over-opinionated large parties...I would watch those poor brides get so confused, then pull her aside and suggest that she come back in either by herself and 1 or 2 trusted people. It is extremely important to know what YOU love and it will happen naturally :) You are on top of it, though, so you will be just fine! Best wishes!!! xoxoxo brynn

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  26. Great post! I love the dress in the top right hand corner!

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  27. definitely be open minded, but stick to your guns as well. i liked my dress, but it definitely wasn't something i'd normally wear or the image i had in my mind of what i wanted to wear, so i wish i would have leaned more toward my original direction.

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  28. The last point you need to remember. You will know and you will look stunning. Ah you are going to have a blast. Wedding shopping is the best!
    xo
    Alexa
    www.theshortandthesweetofit.com

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  29. how exciting!! this will be such a fun day, you'll look back with lots of great memories. ps - it only took me 3 dresses to find the one! :) good luck!

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  30. good luck and have so much fun! :)

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  31. Good outlook you have... one that a bridezilla doesn't think of! Ha!!
    In the end, I couldn't decide between 2 dresses, but then I just felt that I loved one more than the other. That instinct feeling of "this is the dress," came to me and it will come to you. I promise!

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  32. I had such a great time shopping for my wedding dress! Have fun and yes, definitely keep an open mind!!

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  33. I just said "yes" a couple weeks ago. My advice would be just to enjoy the process and not stress out. I ended up trying on dresses at 7 different stores (over the course of about a month and half) and started to get nervous that I would not have a "this is the one" reaction. There are just SOOO many pretty dresses! In the end, I did (and it felt glorious!). I was completely open to trying on styles the consultants suggested (even styles that i initially thought I would never wear), and I ended up picking a dress that was exactly how I always imagined. I just can't wait to wear it! The process is fun, but it's nice for it be finished and checked off the list. It will all work out and you will look beautiful! :)

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  34. What great advice! I only brought my mom & my best friend. Long story short, that dress was beautiful, but the shop went out of business & stole our money. I found the actual dress that I wore & I think I was solo--& I went in on a whim. Once I had shown my mom & best friend, I ended up buying it.
    I think if you bring too many people, you end up getting way too many conflicting opinions.
    I cannot wait to see your dress, Jillian!
    Love, Leigh

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  35. my oh my I love every single one of those dresses!!

    Lovely Little Rants

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  36. Oh my goodness, I'm so excited! I can't wait to hear about the experience, and of course which dress you'll finally wear!

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  37. I'm so jealous i'm obsessed with wedding dresses and i don't even get to go with liz because her future mother in law is making her dress! Have fun!
    xx
    Z

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  38. have so much fun! i tried on 5 dresses total, including the ONE. i brought two bridesmaids on my second trip (i had been going back to decide between two dresses) and they randomly picked out a new, different dress for fun - and that was it!

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  39. Have fun! I need to start shopping for a dress, too, but first we need to set a date.

    Do you have an idea of what kind of dress you want?

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  40. I can't second the open mind rule enough! I thought I knew exactly what I wanted until I tried on a new sample because the consultant said it would look great on an hourglass shape like mine and she wanted to see it on a body. Decision made in 20 minutes!

    Haley @ Cardigan Junkie

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  41. oh i can't wait to see what you choose! the second dress i tried on was "the one" but i tried on a million others just in case. :) besides, when else can you do this?! have a great time!

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  42. also don't forget to bring along shoes that will be similar to the ones you will be wearing!! and yes, keeping the party small is better!!

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  43. oooooooooooo good luck!! so fun!!

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  44. I think when you put on the right dress you will just KNOW! xo

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  45. One of my Business School professors OWNS Kleinfelds! Congrats to you!!

    See my Etsy shop here (incredibly affordable and trendy) http://www.etsy.com/shop/ChristinaChild

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  46. Super advice...
    I am engaged but I really should think about actually comitting right? Heeheee..
    Love the list.
    jennie. x

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  47. these are awesome tips! and i just want to reiterate number 6. i tried on some fancy wedding dresses that everyone oohed and aahed over. sure they were gorgeous, but they were so NOT me. i had to fight every one on it a bit, but i stuck with my gut and ultimately got them to understand that i wanted to feel like myself on my wedding day. so yes, stick to those instincts!

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  48. i lovee that show and so excited for you! only thing i would add is to make sure you follow *your* gut and not just what your girls like! and to have a glass of champagne whether or not you buy a dress!
    xo

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  49. Can't wait to hear what you find. I ended up with the complete opposite of what I thought I wanted! Good luck doll! xo

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  50. Even though I'm not getting married, I'm totally loving and absorbing all of the wedding posts! I can't wait to hear about your weddingpalooza weekend !

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  51. Yay! Congratulations, good luck, and great advice. Hope to hear the full report on how each rule works out for you!

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